There is a saying that goes something like: he who does not cry does not get fed — or does not get what he wants. And the underlying sense — that fighting for what you want is acceptable — is fair enough. But I think some people take it in the direction of drama.
Have you seen people who complain about everything? They are walking drama. They seem to compete over who has the most to suffer. They seem to expect pity. They cry over everything. Whether it is that no one helps them, or that their job makes them miserable, or that they cannot find work, or that some illness prevents them from working — they always have a story about how badly things are going.
I think we must learn how to ask for what we want and how to say what we do not want. But alongside knowing how to be assertive, we must also be positive — accepting the good things, learning to see them. We must appreciate what we already have, and if we want something more, work towards it and enjoy the journey. We must not be the toxic people who make a drama of their lives and play the victim indefinitely.






